Mid-day 44th anniversary special: ‘I learnt to run my own house’

Ayesha 34 and Saurabh Sehgal 36 migrated to Mumbai from Greater Kailash South Delhi during the pandemic in March 2021 Saurabh got a job opportunity in the city and Mumbai has been their home for past two and half years Ayesha works at a wellknown NGO The couple is looking forward to next month when they will be blessed with their first childHerersquos Ayesharsquos account of moving to Mumbai growing as a person and successfully making a home and a life here amid the pandemicBorn and brought up in Delhi and the younger of two siblings I have always been in a very safe environment I am a typical south Delhi girl whose life was within a 10 kms radius of her house I even got married within a 5 kms radius Night outs late night dinners with friends were never my thinghellipMy mom has been my best friendPost marriage we had a typical joint family set up in GK2 Greater KailashPart II one of the so called ldquoposh areasrdquo of South Delhi I never entered the kitchen unless I had to open the refrigerator My mom and motherinlaw were competing on who pampers me moreSaurabh was working in the paints and coatings industry and I was in the broadcast industry when in 2021 he got a job opportunity in Mumbai His concern about whether this was worth giving up on 10 years of my career and how I would adjust and manage on my own kept him from taking the opportunity which would have given him a career boost We spent days and nights discussing it and finally decided to take a leap of faith and moved to Mumbai a city we werenrsquot very sure ofOn February 26 2021 Saurabh came to Mumbai a month before I did so he could figure out a house We used to talk often on video calls when he would be house huntingmdashI rejected all the houses We eventually found a decent place to move in It took me a very long time to comprehend that we were residing in one of Mumbairsquos prime neighbourhoods with some of the cityrsquos finest viewsOn March 29 2021 right in the middle of the pandemic I came to Mumbai A ldquonot so bigrdquo house with hardly any space to have a 24 hours help We had to make peace with finding different maids for different household chores Whoever said itrsquos easy to get a ldquobairdquo in Mumbai definitely lives in some different era altogether They are difficult to find they charge a bomb and they have their tantrums Settling down took some time with no mom to handle the maids and no dad to take care of groceries and no ldquohouse handlingrdquo experi ence of any kind whatsoeverThere was even a time in between when COVID cases increased in Mumbai during the second wave and the society didnrsquot allow domestic helps and delivery boys in But Saurabh always had my back whether it was helping in the kitchen or with household workSoon enough we realised that Mumbai has a lot of positive sides also The city makes you feel comfortable people step up to help One thing which made us comfortable is that Mumbai is a very nonjudgmental city Your appearance doesnrsquot have to relate to how much money you have in your pocket I remember attending our first house party all decked up only to find people in their PJs In my defence it was supposed to be a birthday party and hence the dressing upI learnt to run my own house too From not moving to getting even a glass of water for myself here I was getting the electricity and plumbing work done at our house alone People would be swarming the house for all kinds of work Somehow I could trust them and it never felt unsafe This was a huge turning point as it made me much more confident and independentNew career breakThis city has been good to us Saurabh is doing well in his organisation I eventually switched to the social service sector and started working for a child rights NGO I can contribute directly towards the welfare of marginalized children of the society itrsquos a job I always thought of getting into but was too caught up in the rat race to have the courage to step out While Saurabhrsquos office was in Lower Parel and mine in Malad we had opted for this area where we stay so that I was closer to my office after having travelled long distances in Delhi every day However things were back to square one with my new office closer to Lower Parel as well and hence started the long commutes again Thankfully we travel together and it gave us an opportunity to have many more dinner dates especially during the weekSaurabh and I have gone through a lot of ups and downs in the past 25 years of living alone but being together made it easier We are now gearing up to welcome our first born next monthNo city or its way of life can make up for not having your friends and family around But Mumbai is kind enough to give you time to adjust to itMumbai meri jaanLove about Mumbai Cosmopolitan culture the city is a melting pot of cultures and people from different backgrounds multiple cuisines languages and traditionsHate about Mumbai Traffic and the cityrsquos poorly planned constructions and renovationExpectations from Mumbai Fast paced lifestyle The city has a busy lifestyle which is vibrant and dynamicDid Mumbai live up to it YesWill it remain forever home Never say Never