Updated On: 16 July, 2024 09:25 AM IST | Mumbai | Anindita Paul
At what point does parental leniency convert into complicit and enabling behaviour that can threaten to rub off on their children? From the Worli hit-and-run brat to the trainee IAS officer in Pune, examples abound of this troubling scenario around the ethics of parenting

(Left) Vishal Agarwal, father of the teen acussed of killing two people with his luxury car in an inebriated state in Pune, gets arreasted. FILE PIC; (right) grandfather Surendra Kumar; (in pic) mother Shivani breaks down in a video. Pic Courtesy/X
Recent revelations about Manorama Khedkar, mother of disgraced trainee IAS officer Puja Khedkar, serve only to cement the expression ‘a chip off the old block’. Manorama has been accused of attempting to usurp land from a farmer by threatening him with a pistol and is being investigated for unlawful possession of the said firearm. But if you’ve been following recent headlines, you probably already know that this isn’t the only instance of misbehaving children and worse-behaving parents in recent times. Take, for instance, Mihir Shah of the infamous BMW hit-and-run case in Worli, whose family came together to help him flee after he mowed down a couple in the most heinous way. The 1,000-tonne elephant in the room that’s now staring us in the face is a complex one — is India’s parenting fundamentally broken?
Apart from being a child’s primary caregiver, a parent is also responsible for instilling in the child a strong value system, as well as basic recognition of both right and wrong. But when the parents in question not only enable their children’s misdeeds but also go great lengths to shield them from what can only be considered natural consequences of their erroneous ways, are their actions not contrary to their parental responsibilities?